POST: 'Daddy Issues' - different generation. different mentalities.

What's it about?

Donald Moscowitz's parents disapprove of everything from his profession to his lifestyle. The only thing that will make them happy is if they have a grandson, so Donald gets his neighbor's son to pretend to be his own son. 

What'd I experience?

Different generations. Different mentalities. We have Donald's family, the older, more traditional mindset. The common mentality of following a cookie cutter shape. Getting a, what THEY consider, respectable, high paying profession. Getting married, having children, and settling down. A formula that, if followed, achieves their love and respect. They reminded me so much of my own parents and how much I was like Donald. Donald, the free thinking, stubborn, youth, seeing the endless possibilities and fighting for a piece of it. I felt like I was in an alternate universe watching another version of me. 

Different mentalities. Tons of friction. In the first act, a majority of it is the friction and tension between Donald and his father, Sid. Sid disapproves of everything Donald is and does. It goes against everything he believes. The relationship and friction between the two remind me a lot of my relationship with my own father. There's the parental figure that tries to force their beliefs onto their child, and then, there's the child that want to figure out their own path. Either way, the tension escalates, and I saw arguments with my father projected onto these characters. Sid tells Donald that he just wants him to be happy, something my father has told me more times than I can count. Similar to what I would say, Donald snaps, " No. You want YOU to be happy," and I couldn't have said it better myself. It's true. They want the security of knowing that their child will be their idea of "okay." Financially secure in a "respectable" job becoming what they want, disregarding what their child wants. Donald and I resist, choosing our own paths. #sorrynotsorry

Tons of friction. Some low blows. It wouldn't be an argument without some low blows. Donald and his father reflect on his auditions. How Donald ALMOST books a gig but always falls a little short. His father says, "almost doesn't count in this world." #feelintheburn He discredits and lacks support towards his son's profession. It's clear that there's this lack of respect from his father simply because of what he does and there's his lifestyle as a homosexual. Out of disbelief and anger, Donald says, "you disapprove of everything." I start to feel deja vu. I've been here before. Seen this argument. Been a part of it. The listing of one's shortcomings and the angry boiling response back. The feeling that you'll never be good enough. That nothing you'll ever do is right. That you've lost before you've even started. 

Some low blows. Time for some manipulation. You see, love is equated with following "the right path." We all want our parents to be happy. To feel respected and loved. That's where the manipulation comes in. Donald's father uses this to manipulate his son. Sid says that it'll make Donald's parents happy if he gives them a grandchild. He continues on to say, "Who cares as long as you have a child?" This was disheartening to hear. That Donald's hopes, dreams, fears, etc. are unimportant. That all that matters is making them happy and providing a grandchild. To no surprise, Donald hires a neighbor's son to play his own son. Donald is willing to go to extreme lengths, even lie to his parents just to make them happy. There's this manipulation on both ends now, and while watching, I was dying to force communication. To just yell "TALK TO EACH OTHER. LISSSSSTTEEEEENNN TO EACH OTHER," but I'm silent, watching these polar opposites cover their ears and doing what they think is best. 


 

Want to see it?

$20 tickets (thru Goldstar)

Daddy Issues
Davenport Theatre
thru Apr. 24