POST: 'Homos, Or Everyone in America' - here come the waterworks

What's it about?

The trials and tribulations of a young gay couple in New York City. It explores the ups and downs within relationships as we all try to navigate this thing called love.

What'd I experience?

Throughout the play, the conversations the characters were having made me think about a lot of things. The first being that I have no clue what it is like to be gay in America. The play showed me how difficult it can be, living in a society that (for a long time) did not accept you for who you are.  I have not experienced enough discrimination to really know how it feels to be different, despite being half Arab myself. Hearing their stories of bullying, the teasing, the mean comments - it made me sad. It made me think how everyone always says to "just be yourself" but sometimes you can be in a situation or an environment where you feel you can't and that is sad.

Being in a relationship myself, it made me ask questions about how I would handle their situations. What is my view of open relationships? Could I really forgive someone if they cheated on me? How do I communicate during arguments/conversations?  Seeing another relationship really made me examine my own. At times, I felt connected to the characters, and others I was like nooooooo I would never or that would neverrrr happen with me.  

I have to say the two characters made me go through a roller coaster of emotions. I was constantly changing emotions because one scene would be happy and romantic, and then the next is an argument. I remember one scene that really made empathize with the character was when the couple broke up. One was heartbroken and hurt and not wanting to break up while the other was so casual and calm, prioritizing catching a train than comforting the heartbroken man in front of him. I had the sad realization that even if one person wants a relationship to work so badly, all it takes is the other person to easily end it.

Towards the end of the play, you learn that one of the characters was beat up so badly surgeons had to reconstruct his entire face. All for being gay.  There's a loud BOOM! and I jump out of my seat. The guy is laughing maniacally which turns into sobbing and wailing. Like he was dying in pain. It was unlike anything I had ever seen. Here come the waterworks. I am a mess. It's baffling how the scene before they're all fine and dandy having a conversation and the next, one of them almost DIES.  The guy is bawling in his lover's arms, rocking back and forth. It was intense. The scene ends with a hug, and alluding to a hope that both of them will be ok (and potentially get back together...).

While watching the last scene, I immediately think I HAVE to call my boyfriend after the show. My mind is really blown at the thought that at any time, someone you really care about can go from fine to badly hurt. So I'm spewing all of this romantic stuff and bawling about how the show was so emotional and I love you so much and I had to call you because THE FEELS. I get all my thoughts and feelings out. And, truthfully, I am surprised that the show affected me as much as it did. I say what I need to say and I go home, content. All of this took me by great surprise because I definitely was not expecting so much from this show given things started.

This play and I got off on the wrong foot right. First, I'm having anxiety making sure I get to the show on time as "there will be absolutely no late seating."  I even passed on a free dinner opportunity so that I was definitely on time to the show. DINNER. So I get there with a few minutes to spare so I leave all my stuff at the complimentary coat check and make my way to my seat. The first thing I notice is that there is no stage. That's right. No stage. What's up with that? The seats are arranged so that there's only a long walkway. Not sure how that works.  

Then, of course, the woman next to me decides to carry all of her stuff on her lap, and it is all up in my space and she sits so that now her leg is on the edge of my seat. First, why she didn't put it all in the FREE coat check, I will never know. People are strange. Second, no respect for personal space. Just none. Sigh. Now it's 8:10 and I'm annoyed because there are people coming in late. Mmmmhmmmm. So much for this "absolutely no late seating" policy. I mean, if you're gonna make a bold claim like that, then at least stick to it.

The show starts and for the first ten minutes, I'm pretty bored. It seems like the show is just going through the stages of this gay couple's relationship and I'm kinda like how surprising can you get? You witness the dates, arguments, conflict, drama, the usual parts of a relationship. The only thing that kept me really going was that Michael Urie was making jokes that had me laughing. As the show goes on, I begin to see how the relationship develops. I had to pay close attention because there were lots of switches between the past and the present. In the moment, it was confusing but I was just trying to remember everything that was happening. Towards the end, everything became clear. And you know the rest already, it ends with me and all the FEELS.


Want to see it?

$20 tickets

Homos, Or Everyone In America
Labyrinth Theater
@ Bank Street Theater
thru  Nov. 27