Q: What do I do about an annoying neighbor at a show?

Jazmin
So different scenarios… What do you do if the person next to you starts opening up 5 LOUD candy bars?



Rafa
Honestly, nothing. I’d be annoyed but nothing gets me as mad as when people whip out their phones.



Mona
I don’t like ruining other people’s experiences, but then again, I don’t like my experience being ruined either, so I’d give the evil eye with a “come on” face.



Jazmin
LOL and what if that person doesn’t get the hint? Is it ok to kick them?



Rafa
LMAO KICK THEM? That’s too much. If i was with someone I would start talking really loud and say “WOOOOOOW REALLY??? CHOCOLATE??? NOW??” Until they get the hint to stop.



Jazmin
So I guess most people would agree they hope the person fixes their behavior on their own but if not, it’s all staring contests and shade from there



Mona
Yeah. Or Anne would ask them to share. Haha.If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em right? But seriously, the person should be reading the room. If the room isn’t cool with it, you shouldn’t be doing it.



Rafa
I think someone who takes out their phones or something can’t or doesn’t care about reading the room. Like, what are you supposed to do if giving them looks or loudly sighing doesn’t work? This happens all the time to me.



Mona
After all the staring, become the ultimate shusher. By doing nothing, we just condone that behavior and teach them that it’s okay to continue doing that.



Jazmin
Tell em Mona!



Rafa
I wish I was comfortable enough with public confrontation to actually tell people to stop though.



Mona
I feel you Rafa. Minimum, you should get some petty revenge up in there. If they’re going to ruin your experience and everyone elses, the least you can do is make theirs a bit more unpleasant.



Jazmin
I mean, common sense is only common to the common knowledge of a specific group. #deep. Theatregoers are a culture and what if someone is introduced to that culture for the first time and doesn’t know what they’re doing is wrong…



Rafa
I don’t agree with that because almost everyone who has gone to theater has also watched a movie in a theater. The same rules apply there. If you can’t turn your phone on while watch Finding Dory then you can’t turn it on while watching Cats.



Jazmin
but then they might think candy bars are okay… oooo see the hole.



Rafa
LMAO IM LITERALLY SITTING HERE INTERNALLY SCREAMING. YOU’RE RIGHT.
Mona
That’s not to say that candy bars aren’t okay. Just don’t be the asshole unwrapping it forever making the loudest noise. There’s a clear line between being decent and just straight up rude.



Rafa
Also, doesn’t the announcer always say “unwrap your candies now?” So why wouldn’t they listen then when told explicitly.



Jazmin
True, true. What about chair kickers and screaming babies?



Mona
That usually gets a head whip like fur real right now? I mean screaming babies are harder to control, but chair kickers? Those guys know what they’re doing is wrong and do it anyways? #rude



Rafa
I used to love going to magic shows and stuff but stopped because I hate all the kids that go. Too many times have I been pissed off because of the kids kicking my seat, yelling, etc etc. I just gave up. Parent’s are also super rude when you tell them to control their kid.



Mona
Rafaaa!!! YAASSS!!! PREACH! I love being a child, but the children at those shows make me second guess if I want to go to them anymore. And parents can get so rude. Can we ever escape all of this rudeness? Haha.
Jazmin
Children are better than babies though. Seriously. If you can’t find a babysitter, please don’t come to the show. Don’t be THAT person (unless you really have to)!



Mona
I feel you Jazmin, but what about old people? What’s your take on them?



Rafa
I have never had a bad experience with an old person. Except one who was wearing a “Make America Great Again” hat and kept giving me stares while i was watching the show. That was a bad experience.




Mona
That sounds horrible. Sorry you had to go through that. I just had this one really bad experience that made me start questioning old people. Some guy got all worked up and started yelling at me for writing notes. He called me rude, and I did nothing. I didn’t want to ruin everyone else’s experience, especially the actors, but boy would I have gotten myself kicked out if I had.
Rafa
Um what the hell. That’s so messed up. What the hell was that dudes problem with you writing notes? That doesn’t even interrupt anyones experience. Wow, that got me tight.



Mona
I was apparently writing my “thesis” and distracting him from watching the show, which if I was, he could’ve just looked at the performance instead of me.



Jazmin
hmm ya’ll have stories. Old people never really bothered me. I always found them adorable and as long as they don’t snore if they sleep, we cool.



Mona
Haha. We sure do. I mean I had a really great experience too. I had some old guy help me put on my hoodie, which was just the cutest thing. He told me to have a good night and was all kinds of sweet too. I was just curious if you guys ever had a bad experience.



Rafa
Yeah honestly, old people don’t really bother me ever. I think at this point my threshold for bullshit is really high. When I first got into the theater world I would be so uptight about everything but now I’m just like, “If it doesn’t completely ruin my experience I don’t really care.”



Mona
So I guess what we’re trying to say is that we’ve had a mixture of experiences and just to inform the person of their rudeness at the end of the day, so they don’t do it again? That or just have the whole theater to ourselves. Either one works. Haha.



Rafa
Exactly! Also, don’t be an asshole and have some decency.



Jazmin
Let them know or don’t. You paid for the ticket, you decide how you want your experience to be.



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